ONLINE THERAPY FOR ANXIETY AND TRAUMA IN TEXAS
helping you break free from perfectionism, find your voice, and discover your potential to become your most authentic self.
I collaborate with high-achieving adults to process their childhood & relational trauma, let go of perfectionism, people-pleasing, and build their self-worth to connect with themselves and others meaningfully.
imagine a life without the fatigue from holding everything together amidst dysfunctional family dynamics and attachment wounds? or The constant pressure to over-perform in every aspect of life due to chronic feelings of inadequacy?
sound familiar?
ready for change?
You appear to “have it all together,” are successful in your career, and usually are a top-performer. Externally, you excel at what you do, but it comes at a cost.
You have an impossible to-do list. You probably have been able to achieve completing all of it in the past so you continue to set higher expectations on what you can do yet beat yourself up when you don’t.
You struggle with your self-imposed high standards. Internally, it feels way too much to handle.
You are exhausted from working so hard. Striving for better, because “great” is still not enough.
You avoid thinking about your childhood or family because it hurts too much. They’ve impacted your self-perception, relationships, and worthiness.
You struggle to communicate your needs and boundaries in relationships because they weren’t valued before. You desire a healthy, strong, and secure attachment with your loved ones.
You find it difficult to make a decision because you fear making the “wrong choice.” This results in always deferring to others and always questioning yourself.
You like being in control because chaos causes too much stress. You try to take back control by trying to plan everything, but that overwhelms you too.
You are gentle-hearted and compassionate. Your selflessness becomes expected and you put others’ needs first yet you feel unworthy of the same.
You are a people-pleaser and fear saying “no” because you’re afraid they won’t like you. You may overthink interactions and replay the same conversations over and over because you think you did something wrong.
Hi, I’m Dr. Vy (vee)
Licensed Psychologist in TX #39146
Searching for a therapist who is both driven and gentle, dedicated to going above and beyond for individuals like yourself? If you desire someone genuine, warm, direct, and up for a challenge, let’s talk!
Clients value my active, practical approach, thought-provoking questions, and compassionate style, creating a supportive environment for vulnerability. Tailoring evidence-based techniques to your unique needs, we'll explore your past and take action to enrich your present.
You don’t have to face this alone. We can strategize and set achievable goals together. With your motivation for change and my extensive experience in complex trauma and anxiety, we can work towards restoring control in your life and discovering new meaning.
specializing in working with high-achievers seeking balance, healing, and authentic relationships
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Growing up in a family with issues can make things tough for kids. They might not get the support and care they need, which can mess with how they see themselves and others when they grow up. Without a stable emotional foundation, it's hard for them to build healthy relationships and handle their feelings.
Being in a chaotic environment as a kid can leave behind pain that sticks around into adulthood. This can show up in different ways, like feeling not good enough, struggling to trust others, or having a hard time controlling emotions. People who grew up in this kind of situation often carry the weight of their past, affecting what they believe about themselves.
Dealing with this leftover pain means unpacking the emotional baggage from childhood. Through therapy and thinking about their experiences, people can understand how their early years shaped their thoughts, feelings, and actions. Figuring out where the pain comes from is a big step in getting rid of it.
Learning how to handle emotions is a big part of this journey. Without the right tools, people from troubled family backgrounds might feel overwhelmed or disconnected from their feelings. Therapy gives them a safe space to learn and practice ways to handle emotions better, so they can deal with challenges in a healthier way.
The goal isn't just to think about the past but to actively work on healing and making a better future. By dealing with the old pain and building emotional strength, people can change how they see themselves, create better relationships, and break free from the tough stuff they grew up with. This process helps them move towards a more satisfying and empowered adulthood, leaving behind the chaos of their early years.
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Dealing with anxiety can feel like a complex journey. It's like there's always this background worry that makes everyday tasks seem harder. Anxiety isn't predictable; it comes in waves, messing with your focus and draining your emotions. Making decisions becomes tricky as your mind gets caught up in what-ifs and potential problems. Sleep can turn into a struggle, with anxious nights making you even more tired. Even social situations, once comforting, might start feeling a bit scary. Talking about these challenges is tough because anxiety often operates quietly, especially for those who haven't felt its weight. But in the middle of all these difficulties, it's important to notice the strength and bravery of those facing anxiety. It's an ongoing journey of learning about yourself, being kind to yourself, and finding ways to handle and overcome the tough parts that anxiety brings.
As someone who aims high, you know all about chasing excellence and reaching impressive goals. But let's talk about the tough side of always pushing yourself. Sometimes, it feels like a heavy load on your shoulders—a constant pressure to meet super high standards not just at work but also in your personal life and, most importantly, within yourself. This never-ending quest for perfection comes with a cost and often brings along a sense of anxiety. The fear of not meeting your own expectations, along with the constant pressure to do well in every aspect of life, can get a bit too much. This cycle might make you forget about taking care of yourself as you struggle with the never-ending pursuit of perfection. It's important to recognize these feelings, acknowledging that it's okay to have an internal battle with self-criticism and anxiety. Taking steps towards finding balance and being kind to yourself is not just okay—it's a crucial part of looking after your overall well-being, especially when you've set high standards for yourself.
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Being someone who aims to please or struggles with codependency can bring its own set of challenges, but it's all part of a journey that many go through with warmth and understanding. The desire to make others happy often comes from a genuine wish for positive connections, but it can sometimes lead to some tough situations. You might find yourself saying yes to a lot of things, even if it means putting your own well-being on the back burner. Seeking approval becomes a bit like a cycle that's hard to break. Codependency takes these challenges a step further by tying your self-worth to how others feel about you. There's this strong fear of not being accepted, pushing you to great lengths to keep everyone around you content. This deep-seated fear can make it tricky to set clear and healthy boundaries because the idea of disappointing someone is just too overwhelming.
Setting boundaries, which is crucial for healthy relationships, becomes a bit of a struggle for people who aim to please or deal with codependency. There's this fear of speaking up for your own needs or saying no, often driven by worries about conflict or losing affection. This difficulty in setting boundaries can create an imbalance in relationships, leading to connections that might not feel as fulfilling as they could be.
Getting through these challenges is a journey of getting to know yourself better and slowly becoming more assertive. Therapy is a warm and supportive space where you can explore why these patterns exist, identify the fears that fuel them, and practice healthier ways of setting and keeping boundaries. It's like a transformation, helping you discover your own voice, build self-worth that doesn't depend on external approval, and foster relationships based on mutual respect and balanced give-and-take.
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EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) therapy is a transformative approach designed to help individuals overcome the effects of trauma and distressing life experiences. By utilizing bilateral stimulation, typically through eye movements, EMDR aids in processing and reorganizing disturbing memories, reducing their emotional impact.
This evidence-based therapy has shown remarkable success in alleviating symptoms related to PTSD, anxiety, and other trauma-related disorders. Its benefits include faster resolution of traumatic memories, improved emotional well-being, and a greater sense of empowerment as individuals regain control over their lives.
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Premarital therapy, or counseling, is like a prep course for couples gearing up for marriage. It's not just for the engaged—it works for any couple serious about tying the knot.
Here's the lowdown on what premarital therapy can do for you:
Communication Boost: It hones in on better communication between partners, a crucial skill for understanding each other's needs and navigating conflicts smoothly.
Conflict Resolution School: Ever wish you had a guide on how to handle disagreements? This is it. It gives couples a safe space to sort out potential sources of conflict and learn to compromise.
Expectation Check: Couples often have different expectations about married life. Premarital therapy helps sort out assumptions on roles, responsibilities, finances, and more.
Intimacy Tune-Up: Therapists help couples explore and amp up emotional intimacy—getting to know each other's emotional needs, building trust, and deepening that connection.
Family Background Chat: It dives into each partner's family history to understand how upbringing shapes beliefs and expectations. Handy for navigating potential bumps.
Marriage Toolbox: It's like a crash course in practical skills—think problem-solving, decision-making, and goal-setting. Equips couples with tools to tackle the complexities of married life.
Money Matters: Finances can be a hot spot in marriages. Premarital therapy dives into financial goals, budgeting, and how to manage money together.
Relationship Dynamics Tour: Therapists help couples explore the dynamics in their relationship—power, decision-making, and all that jazz. It's about finding that sweet balance.
Crisis-Ready: While prepping for a successful marriage, therapy may touch on handling unexpected challenges. It's like crisis management school for couples.
Future-Proofing: By tackling potential issues upfront, premarital therapy aims to prevent future problems and set the stage for a successful, long-lasting marriage.
In a nutshell, it's a proactive approach to relationship health, giving couples the skills and insight for a strong and lasting marriage. So, it's like marriage insurance, but way more fun!
Clients who seek me out usually identify as:
high-achieving professionals / entrepreneurs
master’s & Ph.D. students / postdocs / academics / medical students
intellectualizers / deep thinkers
deep feelers / empaths / highly-sensitive
strong lovers & givers
teachers / healthcare providers
type A personality
introverts & old souls
children of immigrants
ADHD
why clients connect with me
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It's completely understandable if you're feeling nervous about opening up and unpacking things that you've pushed down for years.
I want you to know that in a safe and accepting relationship, you can be yourself and not be judged. My role is to hold space for all of your deepest pains with the utmost compassion.
As a warm-natured person, I appreciate cheesy puns and believe in offering a safe and non-judgmental space for healing. You may already be highly critical of yourself, so my goal is to create a space where you don't have to feel that way.
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Do you find yourself seeking constructive feedback to improve but struggle with being sensitive to it?
You'll experience unconditional acceptance and calmness while also receiving feedback that you may not initially want to acknowledge but ultimately need to hear.
My approach involves asking thought-provoking questions that may challenge you to reflect on areas that you haven't explored before. By being transparent about my thought process, you can gain a clearer reflection of yourself.
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Are you interested in gaining a deeper understanding of yourself and how you impact others? Do you enjoy exploring creative avenues, such as writing or verbal expression, to increase your insights beyond just talking? Cool!
In our sessions, there's a safe space for you to explore uncomfortable or ambiguous emotions and experiences. We'll work together to develop coping strategies and exercises that can help relieve symptoms and promote healing. At times, we may focus on finding solutions to the challenges you face, while other times, we'll prioritize introspection and self-reflection.
3 steps to starting therapy.
1) reach out.
Determine your weekly availability
2) fill paperwork.
Complete and sign the paperwork
Place on their waitlist
3) attend session.
Establish a time & day that works
Schedule appointment
What a privilege to walk alongside your journey of growing into your most authentic self.
I’m excited to get to know you better. Let’s discover who you are, increase insight, practice self-compassion, and strengthen relationships now.
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